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21.3.2022 Just A Second…

“Alice: How long is forever?

White Rabbit: Sometimes, just one second.”

Lewis Carroll

Just a second, that’s all it can take to change your life. Yesterday, I was on a yard when an accident happened. Completely unexpected, out of character, and impossible to predict. I was not involved, other than in caring for those affected. Hopefully, in this case, the consequences will be relatively mild.

We cannot continually live on the edge, and yet we must be aware, and do what we can to keep ourselves and others safe. We are all so tired. The pandemic has worn us down. Living with such high levels of uncertainty and anxiety has been exhausting, and continues to be. In my household of two, we have had three episodes of Covid-19 within six weeks. I didn’t even know it was possible to catch Covid-19 twice in six weeks! We are lucky, with mild symptoms and a swift recovery. Uncertainty continues around the world, so much so that it is hard even to think about.

And so in writing this, as I hug my boy whilst he sleeps, I want to share with you this poem. It is one I never tire of.

The Last Time (author unknown)

“From the moment you hold your baby in your arms you will never be the same

You might long for the person you were before

When you had freedom and time

And nothing in particular to worry about

You will know tiredness like you never knew it before

Days will run into days that are exactly the same

Full of feedings and burping

Nappy changes and crying

Whining and fighting

Naps or a lack of naps

It might seem like a never-ending cycle

But don’t forget…

There is a last time for everything

There will come a time when you will feed your baby for the very last time

They will fall asleep on you after a long day

And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child

One day you will carry them on your hip then set them down

And never pick them up that way again

You will scrub their hair in the bath for one last time

And from that day on they will want to bathe alone

They will hold your hand to cross the road

Then will never reach for it again

They will creep into your room at midnight for cuddles

And it will be the last night you ever wake to this

One afternoon you will sing “the wheels on the bus” and do all the actions

Then never sing them that song again

They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate

The next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone

You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your last dirty face

They will run to you with arms raised for the very last time.

The thing is, you won’t even know it’s the last time

Until there are no more times. And even then, it will take you a while to realize.

So while you are living in these times, remember there are only so many of them and when they are gone, you will yearn for just one more day of them.

For one last time.”

© Sue Palmer, The Horse Physio, 2021

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