How To Be Happier: Conclusion
We are all in the same storm, but we are not all in the same boat.
My counsellor used to comment that if I had a broken leg, I’d be pointing out that someone with two broken legs was worse off than me. She was telling me that it was okay to feel my own pain, even though I knew that many others were in far greater pain. Just because someone else was hurting more than me, didn’t stop me hurting. I didn’t need to minimise my own difficulties just because someone else was worse off.
I think there’s a fine line between wallowing in our own misery, and kicking ourselves to get on with things. As always, we are all different, and I think that line falls in a different place for each of us.
I am generally a very positive person. Getting divorced put this to the test. It came as a surprise to find myself in a place where I struggled to find any motivation, or to think of anything except the pain I was feeling. My favourite phrase was ‘This too, shall pass‘.
I learned that emotions are like the weather. They never stay the same for long. Every cloud has a silver lining. There is sunshine after every storm. This concept was a revelation to me, and it’s one that I come back to again and again. I hope it’s one that helps you.
I’ve written this book knowing that so many have suffered far more than I have, and in so many different ways. And yet I hope through through my writing I can share some hope and some joy. The world is full of good. We can see it all around us. Sometimes it’s just about changing the angle that we’re looking from.
I wish you love, learning, and laughter.
© Sue Palmer, The Horse Physio, 2021
Treating your horse with care, connection, curiosity and compassion